Tuesday, January 27, 2009

I Am So Rude To All of You

Last week I wrote this post asking you all to pray for Don. Then a couple of days ago Sybil came out and I never thanked you for your prayers OR gave you an update. Please forgive me for being SO rude.

With that out of the way I really do want to thank you for interceding for Don and for our family. The response from all of you was humbling and brought such comfort. Because there are now some "in real life" people reading this blog (NO, Don is not reading this) I am going to be very protective of what I say here. However, I can tell you that Don is going to continue with going to counseling AND I know for a fact that there will be some movement towards healing between Don and David (our son). Sorry to sound like I don't trust you all with information, but not everyone is fully informed yet. (make any sense?)

I am just so grateful for the peace that I have when Don and I communicate now. That is only of God. Life is extremely difficult being a single parent and battling this illness but God really is so good. That becomes such an overused phrase but it is true. God IS good. It is who He is. In the midst of raising two teenagers who are angry, hurt, disappointed, joyful, loving, caring (do they sound at all like their mother, Sybil) God is showing up in huge ways in all of our lives. He is protecting us. Providing. Interceding. Loving. Healing. Preparing. I just want to get out of the way and let HIM lead the way.

Lately I've been thinking about how "good" I am doing. It seems so odd that although my marriage is over and my new normal means I cannot do a lot of what I used to - I still think my life is good. I am enjoying it. Shoot, I feel like I am moving on and I don't know if that's ok. I don't mean moving on to someone else but just moving on to this next phase of my life. The phase without Don. It's been almost a year already but it seems like yesterday that he left. My prayer is that one day he will be doing "good" as well. There's a Garth Brooks song (I will wait for those of you who know me to stop laughing) that I heard on my friend Pam's blog...anyway the song is called "She's Gonna Make It". It speaks of the woman making it and the man never healing. Oh I pray that is not us! Can't believe how much my heart hurts for Don. Just for his heart. For his pain.Who would have thought that the one who was left behind and "wronged" would be the one that prays for the healing of one who inflicted the pain.

Again...that is God! How can anyone not believe that God is real and alive and active. I pray that those of you who come here and read, don't just read to hear updates. I pray that somehow God is using this to change me and using me to point others to Jesus. If you don't know my God I hope you would contact me and we can "talk". If you are struggling in your marriage, it would be my privilege to walk the road with you. You've all been such an encouragement to me, I want to be sure that my life is making a difference.

Am I rambling? Yes. Thank you for your prayers. Don is going to walk into his healing. So am I!!



Kim in NC said...

Hey ~Sybil - I mean ~Sheryl,

Seeing you walk this out in faith and trust in our God is such an encouragement.

I'm praying for you and Don and the kids.

Love ya',

Sharon said...

It's all good, I knew things were going ok, you have faith!
Have missed ya! I will continue to pray for you and the family.

God Bless you my sister
Hugssss and Love

Judy said...

I have not walked in the path that you are now traveling in. I do not know the deep heart that you are experiencing, but I do know that I have prayed for you and your two children and Don very many times. I do not have the answers but I do care!(and I do not mind at all that you share your heart on this blog)

Pam said...

Pam here, from "Pam's Blog" ;) just wanna say that I totally don't want that to be how my ex ends up either!!! (it's on my blog because he told me that was how he was feeling after he left us)

I totally understand your heart in this Sheryl. I totally sit in overwhelmed amazement at how GOOD GOD IS and how HE really can take a heart of the one who has been hurt and turn it around and make it into the heart that prays the most for the one that hurt us. How amazing is that!

Totally hearing you here! Totally praying with you! Totally walking out this adventure with you!!

Debbie said...

Sheryl...I know you will make it, you not only ask in faith for God's help in healing, but you truly believe, and thats when God works. Keep up the faith and I will continue praying for you and Don. Debbie

Toia said...

You are doing the right thing by putting your faith into action.

My thoughts and prayers are with you all.

Susan said...


Give it a rest! You are not rude! Giggle giggle.


Jayme Cox said...

What an example you are being! A Christ-like example to all of us! To respect our husbands even when we may not want to- to be what Jesus has commanded us to be! Our faith has to be challenged in order for us to grow and be who God wants us to be. You and your family are in my prayers and thought of often. You have made lasting impacts on many people's lives- mine included. Lots of Love~

Laura said...

Hey my friend,

Still praying.

May the LORD continue the work he has begun in you and he will bring it to fruition!

Love you,

Dancing Wallflower said...

I am so proud to call you my friend. You have been such an encouragement to me. I am praying for Jehovah Rapha to consume you!!! You did say that was your favorite name, right--hehe!!
You are simply amazing!
Love ya to the stars and back,
Kim (PK)

Debra said...


I wouldn't call it rude. I think you are doing the best you can do and are being protective of your family.

I think you'll let us know when we need to know and we just need to keep on praying.

Which......I am doing. Blessings to you, my friend.

The Emery's said...

I know we don't know each other well...or at all, but you've been on my mind. I've also been Sybil-ish lately and have not been able to pull myself out of it. It's kind of nice to see someone actually write about it. It can get lonely when everyone else seems to have it all together!

Thy Word Is A Lamp Unto My Feet said...

Hi Sheryl-

We are witnesses of the goodness of the Lord in your situation. May it be only the beginning of what is yet to come.


Sharon said...

I don't think anyone actually expects a thank you for praying for you. I know I don't.

I am glad to hear that you feel like you are finally moving on toward the next phase.

I'm sure that phase is where you will release every ounce of emotional dependence you ever felt toward Don and hand it over to God.

This could be the phase where God will define you, not Don, your relationship or lack of a relationship with Don, just GOD, defining YOU.

God bless and keep you,

Suzanne said...

We totally understand that you would not share all details. We don't need to know the details, God knows!

I know what you're going through emotionally and it is a strange time. I wanted my marriage to succeed and didn't know what was next for me. It was very scary. As someone who is 6 yrs removed from it, who prayed earnestly for reconciliation, I now see how He protected me and His answer was not "No, I won't restore your marriage." as much as it was "I have a better plan for you, Suzanne, my sweet child"

You are in exactly the place He wants you, embrace it.

Count it all joy,

Jenny said...

I'm glad to see you are still walking forward!


Heather of the EO said...

You're perspective is amazing. Thank you for sharing yourself this way. Your faith is contagious, and isn't that what so much of life is all about?

Jenn said...

I know I have been so blessed since I found your blog. Your words have helped me dig deeper into my relationship with Christ. Thanks so much and I'll keep praying.

Debbie said...

Hi Sheryl, Just letting you know I have a couple of awards for you on my blog. I don't know how to send them yet, but you can get them off of my blog. Next time, hopefully I've learned how to send them. Thanks, Debbie

Ang baylis said...

I'm still praying for you... and for Don! For me, it got a little confusing when my "in real life" friends started reading. Don't let it change the way you write! Okay? Do you hear me? It is tempting to write for people instead of for God. Your blog does nothing but point people to Him. It really does! I'm honored to pray for my sisters in Christ... and their families!!
So much love,
Angie xoxo

HIS Daughter said...


I haven't heard from you in ages as we have been on different paths in blogworld - different Bible studies, etc.

BUT, I am blown away almost to tears at what GOD has done since the first time I "met" you.
GOD is awesome in how HE heals and teaches.

Funny, but I am now the one that is "in" alot because of my autoimmune disease. The even more funny part is everytime I think - "what can I do to glorify YOU while I'm sort of stuck in here?" the most mind blowing amazing things happen.

I wanted everyone in my small community to know what GOD had done in my life and for reasons that I HAD nothing to do with, people from my community, church, etc., have found my blog and are reading my testimony and my Bible studies...More than I could have ever hoped to talk to or even facilitate a Bible study with!

GOD is after our hearts to glorify HIM and when we let HIM in the midst of pain, HE takes over and we don't even know when it happened and then - there we are and it's nothing short of miraculous!

That is what I feel in your life! I am praying for all of your family....

Keep being faithful to HIS calling!
Blessings and love,

Gathering Hope said...

Bear one anothers burdens, and in this way, you will fulfill the law of Christ.
Sharing helps...you, others.
I need not know the details that you wish not to share, some things should remain unsaid. I will now, and continue to lift you, Don, and the kids.
May I suggest, "Fireproof". An outstanding movie, not just for marriages in struggle, but also for marriages that are great, and for "self".
God's Grace is GREATER than our pain...

Paula (SweetPea) said...

You are welcome for the prayers and you are not rude. We all have our times and needs...when our Sybils take over.

Glad you continue to be better and feel life is going on for you.

I covet your continued prayers for me and my beloved.

Charlotte said...

Drink more water.

Charlotte said...

And while you're drinking more water -- we're talking like at least a gallon a day, here -- take magnesium.

Basically, the balancing mechanism in your ears is like the power steering system in your car; it relies on water, or fluid. When you have vertigo, you have a "leak" in your "power steering system". You need to replenish the fluids in it. But you can't just inject fluid into it like you can your car, so you have to re-hydrate or over-hydrate every cell in your body to get the extra fluid up to your ears.

Magnesium regulates fluids in the body so you might think of taking magnesium supplements as "repairing the leak". Just taking in enough water will cure the vertigo, but you will get very tired of drinking a gallon of water a day, not to mention living in the bathroom, so keep taking magnesium with the excess water. I have no idea how much. Just keep taking it and find out.

And while you're at it, you may as well take extra mineral supplements, either as bone meal, clay, sea salt etc., because that much water is going to wash away the minerals in your body. As a suggestion, put a peeled, grated beet into a gallon jug. Add a tablespoon of sea salt and the juice of a lemon. Fill with water and drink it every day. You can re-use the grated beet as long as it keeps turning the water pink, but replenish the sea salt with every gallon of water. The lemon is optional, but it makes it easier to drink that much water and the acidity helps your body use the minerals.

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